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youre free - yomanda

I won't bite.. if I do, you'll like it.

I never really had a "type" of guy that i preferred over another. Being single and talking to different guys lately, i've discovered what guy i absolutely don't want! I learned I am completely incompatible with shy/quiet guys who are afraid to wear the pants in the relationship. I do like have some power, but me having to initiate every date, every move, every feeling is such a turn off. I mean dang dude, can you grow a pair?!?! Non-chalant dudes aren't gonna make the cut either. Yea you say this, but how good are you at showing it?

Narrowing down my selection in the dating pool is a start. They say there are plenty of fish in the sea, but what if you can't swim? I can, very well, but I think I'm seasick at the moment.

Knowing What & When to Say it

My mother's birthday was this past weekend, the same day as Michael Jackson's. I took her out to dinner to celebrate the day before.

Some say i look just like my mother, but I've found we're more alike personality wise. I've inherited the 'speak my mind' gene that is always mistaken for being mean in my case. While spending time together something was said...by her.

When talking about one particular subject still sensitive to me (she doesn't know that, but it's besides the point), she hit the bulls eye by saying something that hurt me. It wasn't so much because she said it but because she said it with such confidence that it had to be true, like she wanted it to be true. Don't get me wrong, the same thought has crossed my mind a number of times before, but to hear her reassure me it was true instead of consoling me really hit home.

I love my mother very much-- but the truth does hurt!

Fish Eye Lens

I've always wanted one of those high tech lensed-cameras that real photographers use.
Making my birthday wish list! I would love to take pictures like this...

In Continuation. . .

Necessity vs Desire

Would you rather be needed or wanted by your significant other? Do you yourself want or need?

I was reading an Essence magazine recently and came across this poll they were doing.

the question: Do you prefer to be wanted or needed by your woman?

They published maybe 20 answers from different guys all different ages, backgrounds and professions. This particular response caught my eye.

"I want my lady to look at me with wanting eyes, touch me with wanting hands, and listen intently with wanting ears. I want her to need my support, to need the sound of my voice, to need my touch as well as my passion" - 36 year old radio station host

Fellas take notes...the perfect answer in my opinion.

Whats your take on the subject? There's ambiguity for ya.

Also published, 68% of Essence readers prefer to be wanted by their man...I'd like a combination of both.